When planning a wedding there’s probably a plethora of words that are very important to keep out of your vocabulary.  However, according to a new article from Bustle, there’s one specific word that needs to stay off the radar, and it’s probably not the word you were thinking of.  The no-no word this article lists is should.  Reading that you may be thinking to yourself, “how could ‘should’ be so offensive?”.

To answer this you have to think about the different contexts you use should for.  Usually, it’s used to tell someone how to do something and maybe in a pushy way.  Here’s the guidelines you can follow to avoid the word should:

• Don’t let others should you around: this refers to when someone else tells you what to do, and you most likely don’t have any desire to do that thing.  For example. let’s say your mom tells you multiple times that you should hire a DJ, even though you’ve told her you want to use an iPod playlist.  This situation is obviously very frustrating.  To deal with it, simply thank your mother for the suggestion and let her know her opinion was listened to, then leave it at that.  This way no ones feelings get hurt and you can move along with your planning duties.
• Avoid should-ing on your partner: when your partner and you are planning a wedding, it’s very common to have opposing ideas and views on different aspects of the wedding.  However, using should can cause tension and conflict in a situation, which is the last thing anyone wants when planning a wedding.  If you find yourself using the “s” word in a conversation with your partner, take a step back and think about why you’re using it and maybe why the topic you’re discussing is so important to you.
• Try not to should on your family, friends and guests- usually, there’s an a certain way your wedding guests are expected to behave on the special day.  Since you most likely don’t want to be told what you should do, try using the Golden Rule when it comes to guests.  Instead of giving a list of commands they should follow, try approaching guest’s one on one if there’s a problem.  This avoids awkward confrontation and keeps everyone happy.

All in all, avoiding the word should at all costs is probably the best direction to go.  For further clarity, click here.